Our Unexpected News at 20 Weeks Pregnant: Vasa Previa
January 8, 2019 8 CommentsCategory: IVF Journey, Motherhood, My Story
Tags: High risk pregnancy, IVF, Infertility, MS, Vasa Previa, multiple sclerosis
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When I heard the news, my heart sunk. I immediately started to question if my baby would live and what my own fate would be. I was terrified.
I spent the next few days researching this rare condition that only affects 1 in 2500 pregnancies. From tapping into the all-so-resourceful Google to online support groups to even talking to someone who had the same diagnosis but whose baby tragically didn’t make it, I’ve read through it all. The general take away was that the prognosis thankfully looked promising when diagnosed in advance but still, the complications that could arise are endless and nothing is guaranteed.
My doctor advised that I needed to take precautions immediately – limit my activity m, no exercise or lifting of any kind, sexual activity, etc – and hospitalized bed rest would be necessary after hitting the third trimester at 28 – 30 weeks. At any point in the pregnancy, the blood vessels within my cervix could burst and we would have only minutes to surgically remove the baby without leading to a fatality. Talk about pressure…
Assuming the membranes stay put (hence low activity / the bed rest later on), a c-section will be scheduled at 34 weeks, followed by a month of NICU time for the baby. 34 weeks is the best case scenario, as they need to get the baby before anything happens but still allow him enough time to grow in-utero. If bleeding occurs earlier, hospitalization would be needed immediately and our schedule would be shifted.
Ugh. My heart sinks as I write this.
I can only be so lucky as to have the series of events happen as listed above. To have that plan executed so that the baby and myself come out of this okay, would be everything I could hope for and more. But my mind can’t help but wonder and my anxiety has hit a new high as I think of all of the complications that may arise and read the horror stories of others who share this diagnosis.
The truth is, I feel drained. Emotionally and physically drained. It feels like we’ve been continuously hit with these obstacles and I’m tired of having to overcome them. To put on this face of positivity and strength and tackle the unexpected. I don’t want to anymore. I’ve done that with my MS diagnosis and fertility treatments, and now that we finally got the wonderful news that our baby is healthy and growing well, we are hit with this.
I know how lucky I am – to have this diagnosis early… to have access to the best doctors… to have an incredible support system behind me – but I’m just drained.
I’m tired of being scared, fearing for the worst and not being able to control the outcome of this terrifying condition. With a child at home, the thought of something happening to me in this process scares me beyond belief, not to mention the fear of losing the one inside me that would complete our family. We’ve come so far to get to this point, I just want to see it all fall into place.
Did I mention that my likelihood of an MS relapse post birth increases exponentially? With hormones and stress raging, the likelihood of relapse raises almost 60% within the first 6 months of birth. We have enough to worry about without the physical ramifications of that. It all feels like too much and the weight is falling on my shoulders.
So, yes…of course, I will pick myself up and tackle this head on as I’ve done before. I will find a high-risk specialist, consult my neurologist, and I will come up with an action plan. I will do everything in my power to make this okay. But I don’t feel like myself and hopefully will be able to turn that around.
What’s next? Some wonderful people are helping me get an appointment with the best high-risk pregnancy practice in Chicago. We will go from there with Vasa Previa…